Often times we are naturally down on ourselves and our own worst critics, am I right? The outfit you were planning to wear this morning didn't look the way you wanted it to or maybe your hair didn't hold the curls today. Maybe you forgot about the coffee date you were supposed to have with your friend or maybe you messed up a recipe.
My automatic response to small problems like these is to beat myself up with negative words and start with the very well-known and over-rehearsed "if onlys".
Have you ever been there? I know I have, and to be honest, moments like these are very frequent for me. The smallest problem will arise and I'll start shaming myself for it. Have you ever had this struggle before? Why do we jump to degrading ourselves so quickly?
As someone who's always struggled with perfectionism, it's not always easy to have grace on myself all of the time, even if it's over something isn't even my fault. Even though it's not easy for me, I have really been working on growing in positive self talk.
Positive self talk is so important to implement in your life. The difference it can make is immense! If you're focusing on the negatives about yourself all of the time, it's going to be hard for you to grow in self love. The way you talk to yourself creates your reality. You are more than what your thoughts try to narrow you down to be.The way you talk to yourself creates your reality. Click To Tweet
So, my friends...it's time to kick all of the negative self talk to the curb. I'm better than it. You're better than it. We're all better than negative self talk!
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PRACTICING POSITIVE SELF TALK:
The thing about practicing positive self talk is that it's not always natural to do, and therefore, it's not always easy. It's not always easy to recognize that it's okay that you didn't score a certain job, but that you could be perfect for another. It's not always easy to choose to show yourself grace, even in the times you need it most. The beautiful thing about learning positive self talk is that it's a constant journey. Even though it's a journey and it doesn't perfect itself overnight, by intentionally practicing positive self talk, you're choosing to get to a deeper level of self love and acceptance.
HOW TO PRACTICE POSITIVE SELF TALK:
1. Take A Deep Breath Before Anything Else //
The second you start to feel yourself welling up with all kinds of sour emotions, just take a deep breath and clear your mind. If you don't take a moment to breathe and collect yourself before acknowledging the problem at hand, you could really beat down on yourself hard. It doesn't feel good when other blow up at us, so why would we blow up at ourselves? Observe then react.
2. Choose To Reach For A Better Feeling //
I know it's not always easy to to pluck yourself out of negativity (I'm a realist on the lines of a pessimist), but it's so needed. Don't let yourself stay stuck in negativity. It may be easy to hold to the negative, but you've got to break out from that and make the choice to choose positivity. It can be uncomfortable to reach for a better feeling, but after you have, you'll be so glad that you did.
3. Focus On The Good //
Even if you feel like there's no good in you during a certain situation, try to dig in and find some. The truth is, even though we're not perfect and we make mistakes, there's still so much that's good about us. There's good in you. Find it and then focus on that to pull yourself out of a negative rut.
4. Remember That You Are Uniquely You //
You were made to only be yourself. Embrace that! Embrace your flaws and learn from them. Embrace the beauty of your quirks. Embrace the uniqueness that is only you. When you encourage yourself in the truth that you were made to be uniquely you, you'll find yourself much more uplifted.You are more than what your thoughts try to narrow you down to be. Click To Tweet
Please know that you're not alone in this journey of learning self love. We are all stumbling over our feet and trudging along together. Let's cheer each other on and keep our hearts encouraged. Be kind and gentle to yourself. You are doing so great.
When you're down, what are some ways positive self talk can change your outlook? What are some ways that have been helpful to you when practicing self talk? What are some tips you'd give your friends to focus on positive self talk?
Hold fast and take heart.